Confidence
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Keep in mind the spotlight effect: most people are focused on their own concerns rather than watching you.
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- Understand that others' opinions of you reflect more on them than on you.4
Shift your mental focus away from yourself and toward helping others.
Changing this perspective provides the answer you seek.
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Boost self-esteem via a hobby you enjoy or excel at.
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- Develop genuine self-assurance by drilling skills where you currently lack proficiency until you master them.4
Honor minor personal commitments to gradually restore self-trust.
This process helped me regain confidence in myself.
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Take martial arts classes, such as Jiu Jitsu or Tae Kwon Do.
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Keep your head up, maintain eye contact, and smile or nod instead of looking down.
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Act confident and believe in yourself until that belief becomes reality.
Adopting a 'fake it till you make it' mindset can lead to internalizing confidence.
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Establish firm boundaries and enforce them when they are crossed.
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Distinguish self-confidence from ego by viewing confidence as an internal sense of value that remains when challenged, whereas ego relies on convincing others and is easily bruised.
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Never apologize for holding a distinct view; voice respectful disagreement when needed.
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Demonstrate your abilities quietly without boasting, allowing your work to show your value.
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Incorporate cold showers into your routine, starting with warm water and switching to cold.
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