Decisions
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Read at least one book per week.
It allows you to live a thousand lives and love a thousand loves.
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Step out of your comfort zone even if the outcome isn't ideal, as the act itself is valuable and you lose nothing by trying.
You only risk some people not liking you or thinking you're weird, which doesn't matter.
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If you struggle with discipline, try stopping smoking weed.
One person reported that stopping helped.
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Master self-discipline through small challenges, such as cold showers or waking up early, to make larger goals attainable.
Conquering yourself allows you to conquer your goals; big goals become automatic afterwards.
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Delete social media apps completely to take a break.
Taking a cold turkey break led to using the apps less even after redownloading them.
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Work out whether thrifted items are truly needed before buying them, as thrifting does not always save money.
Buying unneeded items, even at a discount, results in wasted money.
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Avoid making personal goals public to prevent losing motivation.
Verbalizing goals to peers can trick your brain into thinking progress has been made, causing you to stop putting in the work.
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Define your best interest by evaluating whether an action serves short-term, medium-term, or long-term goals.
Time frame is important; actions like drinking alcohol may feel good now but are bad later, while learning may be boring now but useful later.
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Read 'Buddhism Without Beliefs' by Stephen Batchelor.
One reader reported that the book opened their eyes.
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Decide to eat better to lose weight and increase confidence.
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Act immediately when you notice the urge to avoid a task.
Delaying causes shame and guilt to accumulate, making avoidance part of your identity.
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If you are in university, consider studying abroad and living with a local family.
One person described this as an utterly life-changing experience that offered a different perspective.
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Assume ultimate responsibility for your decisions and their consequences, even if pressured by others.
Unless physically coerced (e.g., at gunpoint), it is always your decision.
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Run to experience an endorphin rush and view things more positively.
It provides a big endorphin rush and helps you see everything more positively.
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Use audiobooks to learn while doing other activities like gym sessions, dog walks, or showers.
It allows you to retain information better, get through material more quickly, and turn routine tasks into reading time.
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Understand that society's claim of one right answer is false; so-called wrong decisions can work out fine, while so-called right decisions can lead to regret.
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Get emotional intelligence training.
It is arguably more important than physical fitness.
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