Gender identity
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Love and take care of yourself first.
It conveys honest, humble confidence that is not toxic.
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Keep your promises to both yourself and others.
This is described as a trait of a true man.
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- Think before you speak or act.1
Look up 'tomboy femme fashion' to find a style that allows you to own your tomboy nature while feeling feminine.
It is freeing to accept yourself.
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State your genuine interests openly, even if they differ from common topics like sports, to find people who respect your authenticity.
People tend to respect you more when you are proud of being yourself.
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Make good male friends to improve confidence through bonding; one person stated this improved their confidence more than anything else.
Men need male bonding.
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If you think you are weak, either accept that fact or become so strong that you rationally know you are not.
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Take up physical training that requires discipline to callous your mind; the specific form does not matter.
Discipline-based training helps callous your mind.
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Build confidence by reading books, finding hobbies, and getting good at things you enjoy.
The knowledge and skills acquired over time build confidence, which is central to masculinity.
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Apply witch hazel to shaved areas to prevent razor burn.
It is a lifesaver for razor burn.
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Lift heavy compound weights such as squats, deadlifts, and bench presses.
These exercises contribute to a masculine appearance similar to that of powerlifters.
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Admit that you do not know and remain open to learning, questioning the given, and testing ideas.
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Be vulnerable to gain acceptance and self-acceptance.
Vulnerability is required to get acceptance.
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Recognize that hyper-masculine 'fuckboy' behavior is often performed to impress other men and assert dominance, not to attract women.
Most women do not care about this behavior.
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Cultivate confidence as an attractive quality.
Confidence may be a universally attractive trait.
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Define masculinity through purpose, mission, leadership, and groundedness rather than aggression, insults, or violence.
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