Lifestyle
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Repair and reuse old items instead of replacing them to find calm and joy in maintenance.
This habit brings calm and joy.
- Stop if it leads to hoarding stuff you will never get to.
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Define your own life path.
If you do not, you will regret it.
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Remove large screens from your house and turn off all notifications except for critical family members to slow down.
To slow down.
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Spend 20 minutes on hobbies three days a week.
You will feel the satisfaction you need.
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Take up some form of exercise, especially team sports, to make friends.
Team settings allow you to make friends.
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Discover hobbies that provide you with a sense of fulfillment.
Learn to play an instrument and cook to help you know and be yourself.
Knowing who you are helps you attract compatible people.
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Meal prep and use appliances like air fryers or instant pots to save cooking time.
These methods make cooking really quick.
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Invest in yourself between ages 14 and 25, as using this period could drastically change your life trajectory.
Using this period better would make life whole different.
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Focus on life activities that do not involve being good-looking, such as enjoying movies, video games, and hanging out with friends.
The vast majority of life does not involve being good looking.
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Keep your hobbies but adjust your lifestyle to ensure they do not dominate your life.
It is okay to have interests, but they should not take over.
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Secure shared housing early to avoid the exhaustion of daily commutes lasting three to four hours.
Long daily commutes are exhausting and waste years of life.
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Create a concrete plan for desired experiences, such as travel or relationships, and take specific steps to get them.
Making a plan prevents spiraling by giving you a clear path to add what you want to your life.
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Put down controllers and engage directly with real life, treating it as a high-fidelity game with haptic feedback.
Real life is described as way better than minigames.
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Go backpacking or immerse yourself in wilderness for days or weeks to gain a different perspective and clarify goals.
Standing way back provides a different perspective that helps outlook gel into goals.
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Buy fitted, classy clothes when old ones no longer fit to improve your attitude and motivation.
Having clothes that make you feel put together can help you get out of bed more easily.
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Listen to good tunes, podcasts, or books on tape while cleaning to help cultivate cleanliness as a habit.
It helps me clean.
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Keep yourself genuinely busy with hobbies, school, or work to distract from clingy tendencies.
Staying busy helps stop being so clingy.
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If you feel fed up with consuming activities, try creating instead.
Your body may be signaling a desire to create rather than consume.
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Focus on enriching your own life.
You attract similar energy.
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Travel to remove yourself from the environment of your habits.
It forces you out and breaks habitual patterns.
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Pick up hobbies and learn new things to build confidence and give yourself more to talk about.
Having a variety of activities gives you more confidence and makes you feel less uninteresting.
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Add variety to life by eating different fruits, singing, dancing in the rain, or greeting neighbors.
You need to taste tasty flavors.
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Discover hobbies that provide you with a sense of fulfillment.
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If you have self-imposed arbitrary rules that make tasks harder, such as limiting trash can size in your bedroom, remove them to reduce unnecessary effort.
It prevents making things harder on yourself, such as having to take out trash every single day.
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Move out of your parents' house; ideally, move to another city to meet new people.
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Hire a cleaner to handle household messes if they cause relationship friction.
it can make relationships almost frictionless
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Adopt guiding principles or 'North Stars' rather than strict rules for your life.
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Change your life circumstances before attempting to change your habits.
Simply stopping activities for a month won't automatically stop cravings.
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Throw away items you are keeping only because they might be useful someday.
It is liberating.
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Focus on experiences rather than material goods.
Recollections persist for a lifetime.
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Make flow activities the goal in life instead of mind-numbing pleasure.
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Identify activities that pull you along to improve your mood and enjoyment of life.
Feeling better makes you more excitable and improves your mood.
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Mentor a younger sibling to gain perspective and meaning.
It provides perspective and meaning.
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Make activities unusual or unique rather than sticking to a routine.
Unusual activities make time go by slower, whereas routines cause years to fly by.
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Set meaningful goals and try new experiences to enjoy your life, acknowledging that it is finite.
The realization of mortality clarifies priorities.
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Take up wholesome, simple activities like going to the gym and cooking dinner while avoiding partying.
These activities feel good even if they seem boring.
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Clean and organize your living space to make it a desirable environment for potential partners.
A dirty or disorganized place may make guests uncomfortable.
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Develop a rich internal life by finding hobbies and activities you enjoy doing alone to reduce emotional reliance on others.
Valuing yourself and having independent interests helps prevent emotional distress from the absence of a partner.
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Travel to culturally different places to gain perspective and affirm your situation.
Such travel has been described as eye-opening and helpful for feeling better.
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One person reported that traveling solo all over Asia at age 17 or 18 changed their life trajectory.
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Delegate tasks you are not skilled at.
Human diversity in intelligence and ability is designed for delegation; you only need to know what is important.
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Attend events or try activities even if details like weather or food are imperfect, to gain understanding of your preferences.
Focusing too much on details makes life boring; trying things helps you understand what you will like.
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Spend on high-quality essentials like solid shoes, warm jackets, or hobby equipment to make life easier and hobbies more enjoyable.
Better quality items can make life better and easier, and nicer hobby gear can improve performance and willingness to practice.
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Be really intentional about sugar consumption to prevent behavioral episodes.
Sugar usually makes us behave our worst.
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Do not engage in activities like traveling solely out of social obligation.
Mindlessly doing it because of social obligation rather than a desire to explore yields less value.
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Aim energy deliberately at your life to grow by design rather than decay by default.
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Consider moving to a larger town or city with more future opportunities if your current location lacks them.
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Enjoy every stupid moment and celebrate it to make the balance positive when looking back at scars, mistakes, and regrets.
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Avoid wearing tight shoes simply to satisfy others' preferences.
It causes significant pain.
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Buy cheap decants from retailers like The Perfumed Court instead of full bottles to try many scents affordably.
Full bottles are expensive (e.g., $220), while small amounts last a while.
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Read Luca Turin's 'Perfumes: The A-Z Guide' to learn about fragrances.
The book is described as passionate, insightful, funny, and capable of making readers like fragrances.
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