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Call your grandparents instead of texting romantic interests who do not care about you.

It brings them joy and prevents the regret of not knowing them after they pass.

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Mail handwritten greeting cards or postcards to grandparents regularly, even without a special occasion.

It brightens their life and gives them something precious to look forward to; they can reread it without disturbing naps.

• Some may complain about stamp costs or prefer email.
• Some may have vision issues preventing reading.

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• Send postcards to grandchildren when out of town so they know you miss them and can see interesting pictures.1

Call your mother regularly for check-ins.

These contacts mean a lot to her.

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Ask a grandparent to teach you one of their recipes and write it down.

It allows you to learn a potentially lost art from your family that you can pass on.

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Let parents take detours to old haunts when nearby.

It acts as emotional time travel for them.

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Call grandparents and 'watch' TV together by having them turn on a show and talking about it during the call.

It provides a shared activity if you don't have other topics to discuss.

• Calling can be tricky depending on age-related hearing loss.

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Share trivial details of your daily life with grandparents, as these mundane moments can bring them joy and create memories.

Things that make you smile will likely make them smile too, and updating them makes their day.

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• Engage with grandparents by looking through their hobbies or collections together.1

Capture photos and videos of your grandparents regularly.

You will appreciate these memories later; one person regrets having only one picture over 17 years.

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• Take pictures of parents and grandparents regularly during hangouts, not just at major events.1

Set a recurring weekly alarm to remind yourself to call a specific family member to keep them in your thoughts.

It keeps the person in your thoughts even if they call you first.

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• Set a phone alarm or book a weekly reminder in your calendar to prompt yourself to call when you might otherwise forget.3

Sit down with an older relative, talk to them, and listen to their life and viewpoints.

It makes them happy to feel cared for and interested in.

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• If you have older relatives, talk to them about their experiences before they pass away.1

Show your parents your accomplishments and thank them for their guidance during visits.

It makes them feel proud and valued as a parent.

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Ask interviewees what advice they would give to someone watching the recording 10 years from now.

The most common answer focuses on family.

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Include small local gifts or parcels, such as loose tea, with postcards when traveling.

Grandparents tend to treasure these items.

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Give elders notebooks, nice pens, and a journal to write their life story if they prefer writing.

Handwritten accounts can be more special than spoken ones.

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Listen patiently to your parents' stories to cherish them while they are alive.

It makes you feel helpful and fulfilled, and they will not be around forever.

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Spend dedicated short periods, such as 10 to 15 minutes daily, specifically with grandparents during visits instead of only hanging out with cousins.

One person found this time well spent.

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Establish regular activities, such as weekly movie days, with elderly parents to catch up on shared experiences they missed while raising others.

They may have missed out on many good movies while raising children and grandchildren.

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Periodically check in with family to remind them you love them.

Never take good family for granted.

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Communicate with grandparents via text, email, or letters if they prefer written communication.

One deaf grandmother taught herself to email in the '90s, resulting in a close relationship.

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Ask family members questions about their interests to let them share what makes them happy.

People generally enjoy talking about themselves.

• Avoid overdoing it so you do not appear prying or overbearing.

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Treat repeated stories from elderly relatives like a video game played many times: look for new details or perspectives each time to gain a more textured understanding of their life.

it provides comfort in familiar storylines and fun in uncovering unnoticed details

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• Listen patiently to repetitive stories from elderly relatives.1

Play with children on their level, such as getting on the floor to build forts or play video games, when they ask you to.

Children get excited to have an aunt or uncle who is willing to engage in play, especially if parents lack the time or energy.

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Bring items or show content that keeps single grandparents occupied, such as gardening resources.

One person reported this helped a grandparent start an herb garden on her own.

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Write down the contact details of tradespeople (such as plumbers or carpenters) after using them successfully.

Having known contacts ensures someone who will respond, show up, and do good work, rather than risking a random call.

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Use phone calls, FaceTime, or Zoom to connect with older relatives when in-person visits are impossible.

Older relatives appreciate the contact and can be very happy despite technical difficulties.

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Connect with grandparents using simple interfaces like photo sharing and texting rather than complex platforms.

These tools are user-friendly, whereas explaining complex apps is a much harder leap.

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Sit quietly with grandparents and hold their hand to provide comfort through physical closeness, especially if they prefer not to speak.

Comfort sometimes comes from closeness, and simple gestures like holding hands or hugging can lift spirits.

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Use recorded video chats to prompt elders who need assistance starting conversations.

In one experience, most elders needed some prompting.

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Listen attentively to repeated family stories rather than tuning them out.

One person realized years later that they had begun embellishing stories just as the original teller did.

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Cook meals together with visiting parents, each preparing one of their own recipes.

It passes time together while having fun and enjoying food.

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Help single grandparents set up phones and tablets so they can video call.

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Use family members as mediators when conversations with an angry grandparent get heated.

Having multiple people stand by you makes it harder for the grandparent to dismiss your perspective.

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At family gatherings, play with the children instead of sitting and conversing with adults.

Adult conversations can be annoying, and playing with kids reminds you of life before responsibilities.

• Some prefer talking to older relatives to cherish their shorter remaining time.
• Some find kids terrible and prefer to eat alone.

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Visit older relatives and learn your family history while they are alive.

Older relatives are entering their twilight years, and one regrets not making memories or calling them sooner.

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Take up repetitive small talk, such as asking about lunch or recipes, and listen patiently even if stories loop, focusing on connection rather than new information.

The goal is often simply to hear voices and connect, regardless of the topic's novelty.

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Ask older relatives for basic genealogical facts such as names, birthplaces, and siblings to fill in family history gaps.

Failure to ask results in blank spots in family history for younger generations.

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If you have adopted parents, ask about their biological grandparents.

One person wished they had learned more about their biological grandparents.

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Send daily updates or photos of home improvement projects to your father.

He loves the updates.

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Ask grandparents about their career and skill development to understand how they supported themselves.

Being alive for decades requires earning a living.

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Ask elderly people what the strangest thing that has ever happened to them is to uncover unique stories.

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Leave small notes in hidden places around the house during visits for the grandparent to find later.

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Call a different family member during your daily commute home to maintain connections with relatives in other states or siblings.

It improves relationships with distant grandmothers and siblings.

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Initiate video calls with young grandchildren to share excitement, even if the conversation is nonsensical.

Grandparents often love receiving these calls and appreciate the excitement.

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Investigate eligibility for citizenship or passports from ancestral countries like Italy or Spain.

Receiving a passport from a grandparent's country could make traveling, studying, and working abroad much simpler.

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Attach a note explaining the significance of heirlooms or trinkets passed down through generations.

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Back up videos of your grandparents on servers.

To preserve them permanently so you always have them.

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Digitize and store personal records in your own control rather than relying on parents or institutions.

You should not expect others to keep things for you; keeping things out of your line of sight risks loss.

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Journal daily using a format like listing three things you are grateful for.

Journalling is really helpful.

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Record audio or video interviews with parents about their lives, including singing or playing music if possible.

You will have these recordings for when they pass.

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• Record parents or grandparents discussing photos from their childhood.1

Record elderly relatives praying or performing rituals at family gatherings.

It preserves priceless memories for when they pass.

• One person noted this might not be kosher.

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• Record conversations with grandparents discussing their childhoods and historical experiences.7

Make audio recordings of your children's voices.

Listening to them years later is deeply moving.

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Video record interviews with grandparents, particularly when looking at photos.

One person found it fun for family members and discovered unknown details about their mother's youth; another noted they would be too sad to listen after the relative passed away.

• The recording device made the experience worse for one person.

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Start a journal early in life, writing about important thoughts and dreams.

Reading entries from years ago can trigger memories and add another dimension to your understanding of the past.

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Document trips with photos and videos so children can enjoy the memories when they are older.

They may not remember the events themselves, but they will love looking back at the images while you tell them stories.

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Frame recording requests as a school project about generational differences to avoid seeming morbid.

It prevents the elder from interpreting the request as a sign they are on their last legs.

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Record events to share with distant family or friends who cannot attend or have never experienced them.

It makes them extremely happy and excites young relatives who have never seen the event before.

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Verbally state the date in home videos of children.

If the camera fails to keep the correct date, this saves guesswork during organization.

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Scan physical photos before giving them away to preserve digital copies for yourself.

You aren't giving up those memories yourself.

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Continuously migrate recordings to new formats and digital files as technology changes.

To preserve memories that might otherwise be lost on obsolete media like cassette tapes.

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Date all family recordings and documents clearly.

Specific dates become increasingly important as you age, preventing memories from fading into vague timelines like 'sometime when I was younger.'

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Record other people's favorite memories of a deceased relative while those memories are still fresh.

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Check 'giving tree' programs at local churches to help kids who need simple items like clothes or jackets.

It doesn't take much to make some kids' day.

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Give piles of second-hand books as presents to save money and reduce waste.

It is cheap and children enjoy it.

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Save cards and artwork from children by writing the year received on them.

These dated items can become highly valued possessions later in life.

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Encourage children to donate one to two used toys for every new gift received to reduce clutter and teach helping others.

It reduces clutter and teaches charity.

• Toy drives don't really take used toys.

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Have Santa fill stockings with small items while labeling larger presents under the tree as from parents or family.

This aligns with stories where Santa fills stockings and avoids jealousy-inducing large gifts from him.

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Make a big deal out of searching for presents together using flashlights, following trails, and singing, rather than focusing on the number of gifts.

Kids really have a blast with the activity itself.

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Focus on spending time and attention with children over expensive activities.

Children remember you being there more than what you did for them.

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Spend time with aging parents making Christmas goodies as the primary gift.

The time spent together is viewed by the parent as the best possible gift.

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• Gift time spent together with family members rather than material objects.1

Use 'Buy Nothing' groups and food banks for essential items like diapers, cleaning supplies, and groceries.

Local Buy Nothing groups are a treasure for these needs.

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Give empty boxes as gifts to young children.

Kids love playing with empty boxes.

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If you are establishing Christmas traditions for your children, have Santa bring only one present while family and friends provide the rest.

This may preserve the magic of Santa if you face financial hardship later, and it prevents children from feeling less valued than wealthier peers who receive more gifts from Santa.

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• Avoid making most or all big-ticket Christmas items come from Santa to prevent hurting children of poorer parents, though note that some parents may disregard this social consideration.1

Give children binoculars as a gift for quiet play.

They require no batteries or plastic pieces.

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Open early-received gifts immediately to ensure you do not miss the return or exchange window.

Return windows can close quickly, such as in early February.

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Wrap practical items like diapers or clothes as gifts for babies.

It gets the same effect as wrapping toys.

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Consider skipping birthday parties for one-year-olds, as they are often unaware of the event and already receive many gifts.

Parents may feel guilty if they do not hold a party.

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Discuss what children want for Christmas openly and decide together what to ask Santa for versus what parents will buy.

It teaches children to discuss their wants without adults having to pry.

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Give children food, such as an orange, as a gift on Christmas morning to ensure they eat breakfast.

Kids often forget breakfast; asking for a bite encourages them to peel and eat it.

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Exchange inappropriate gifts, such as those with the wrong size, by framing the request around the recipient's growth rather than dislike of the item.

It is better to exchange the item than to discard it or send it to charity due to embarrassment.

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Have Santa give clothes.

It is more likely that Santa brings essentials to poorer kids.

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Hide names in tiny print or use codes on gift tags to turn gift identification into a game.

It adds to the process and makes the experience last longer.

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Rewrap existing toys as new gifts for toddlers.

Toddlers are excited to unwrap items regardless of what they are.

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Insert batteries and stickers into toys that require them before gifting, buying extras if necessary, based on one person's practice with their nephew.

It avoids the situation where the child receives a toy but there are no batteries available in the house.

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Create monthly activity envelopes containing gift cards to spread holiday joy throughout the year.

It gives children something to look forward to each month.

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Wrap gifts attributed to Santa in different paper than the rest of the presents.

Using the same paper can reveal that parents wrapped them, ruining the illusion for children who snoop or notice handwriting differences.

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• Dispose of excess wrapping paper immediately after use.1

Contribute household essentials like Tylenol or band-aids instead of toys.

Parents often stop buying these items after having children.

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Place batteries in stockings as a separate gift to signal that a cool item is included.

It signals you are getting something very cool.

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Keep a box where your child puts their own pictures, drawings, and treasures to ensure they have a personal connection to the memories.

Children are more likely to value memories they selected themselves rather than items chosen by parents.

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Set a recurring theme-based gift tradition, such as specific celebrity memorabilia, for older children or teens.

The recipient may eventually start giving similar themed gifts in return.

• The recipient might be confused at first.

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Consider whether physical mementos are cherished items or burdensome clutter.

What you own can end up owning you.

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Simply tell children 'no' when they ask for unnecessary items during non-recreational shopping trips.

It helps them understand that not every store visit is an opportunity to acquire new things.

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Write gift tags in block letters or cursive if your usual handwriting is distinctive.

Distinctive parental handwriting can give away that a parent wrote the tag rather than Santa.

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Intentionally demonstrate sincere affection by giving small gifts that align with the recipient's interests.

One person found their relationship became better after starting this practice.

• Based on one person's experience.

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Give consumable gifts like food to avoid adding to an older person's clutter.

People spend the second half of their life unloading accumulated items.

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Give experiences or trips instead of showering children with physical gifts.

Memories from experiences last a lifetime and outweigh tangible items; children value spending time together and feeling involved in your life.

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Include foreign coins in payments from the Tooth Fairy.

This prevents children from comparing the monetary value of the payment across different instances or peers.

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Create and frequently update wish lists for growing children, including alternatives.

This helps guide gift givers toward appropriate sizes and current interests.

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Organize a garage sale to declutter the home and generate funds for a positive experience like a spa day or vacation.

Moms often enjoy garage sales, and the proceeds can fund enjoyable activities.

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Interpret 'something needed' as practical play items, like a backpack for a favorite toy or themed dishware, rather than chores.

Children often dislike receiving items perceived as necessities or chores.

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Buy new, unopened toys specifically for donation rather than donating used ones.

Recipients want brand new items, and organizations require unopened goods for liability reasons.

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Give gifts to family members because you love them, not in hopes of receiving one back.

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Place one flower on your child's nightstand for each year of their age as a birthday tradition, arranging for someone else to do it if they live away.

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Avoid taking babies to movie theaters.

High volume levels make it unlikely they will stay quiet or sleep, creating a difficult experience.

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If you visit theme parks, eat lunch in your car before entering to avoid expensive, low-quality food.

Food inside the park is often exorbitantly priced and of low quality.

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Eat popcorn quietly by closing your mouth while chewing and avoiding crinkling plastic wrappers.

To avoid disturbing others.

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Avoid eating smelly foods like sausages or tuna salad in the cinema.

To prevent offending other viewers.

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Ask your parents what they truly want, as their wisdom may surprise you and differ from your vision.

They may not want what you assume (e.g., traveling the world).

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Ensure you can provide for a child's needs before having them.

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Do not judge children by their parents' actions, nor parents by their children, as being related does not make people alike.

Being related doesn't make people alike

• One view argues that judging parents based on their children is a cop-out because parenting plays a massive role in a child's development.

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Frame hearing aids as a normal tool for anyone with poor hearing, rather than just for the elderly, to encourage aging parents to address hearing loss.

They might not realize how much they are missing, which affects their safety.

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Do not apply your own feelings about parents to other people.

Others may feel completely the opposite.

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If you have moved away from poverty, frame that change as an improvement in your situation rather than focusing on the past hardship, as this models progress for your children.

It serves as a good model for kids by showing improvement in your situation in life.

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Accept that your definition of a good life may be the opposite of your parents'.

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• Let your parents live their own lives and find happiness, accepting that their world does not revolve around you.1

Connect with the parent on an emotional level rather than debating facts.

Emotions were likely the hook for their ideology.

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Read books on emotionally immature parents and childhood emotional neglect to gain perspective.

• Note that some recommended titles contain biblical references or are overtly religious.

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Accept that you cannot control a sibling's choices; let them learn from their own mistakes regarding partners while you focus on controlling yourself.

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Move on from embarrassment about teenage masturbation, recognizing it is normal and parents likely already know.

Parents were teenagers too and often know anyway; forgetting this causes unnecessary shame.

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Keep detailed records of all communications and attempts to secure support from an absent parent.

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Include a recent photograph of yourself when sending gifts or cards to very young children who won't see you in person.

It helps them understand who the gift is from.

• Hesitate if it might come off as creepy or confuse the parents about why you are doing it.

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Ask your children specific questions about their mother, such as her favorite food, hobbies, or maiden name, and write their answers in a card.

It serves as a snapshot in time and can yield funny or heartwarming responses.

• Some details may be inappropriate for a card, such as references to alcohol or drugs.

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Send your mother flowers and a card on your birthday to acknowledge the anniversary of her becoming a mother.

One person realized having children how much a birthday means to their mom; another noted it takes little effort.

• Not everyone had a mother present from day one.
• Some people prefer plants that live on instead of flowers that wither and die.

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Ask questions about someone's life to show you care, rather than just saying hello.

Asking questions shows interest and care without being nosy.

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Do not post private messages to social media without permission.

If it was meant to be public, the sender would have posted it themselves.

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Write the names of classmates on the back of school class pictures.

It helps preserve memories that might otherwise be forgotten over time.

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Deflect compliments back to the giver with a personalized remark, such as noting you weren't named after them for nothing, while smiling.

This made the giver's face brighten up and led them to express pride in you.

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When someone mentions new baby photos, ask to see them to build rapport, but be aware this may lead to frequent requests for photos or invitations to future events.

They will show you the pictures anyway, so asking allows you to acknowledge their pride.

• Asking may create a slippery slope where you are expected to attend every milestone event or receive constant photo updates.

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Ask a parent to record a message for children to play when they reach specific milestones, such as their 16th birthday.

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When labeling group photos, clearly identify each person by position, such as left to right or by row.

To make it clear who is who and avoid confusion.

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Offer manufactured choices rather than commands when asking someone to do a chore.

Providing options can lead to the task being completed.

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Take deep dives into genealogy to generate conversation topics.

It provides a lot of questions where unique stories stand out from the blur of names.

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Tell people your boundaries beforehand rather than expecting them to know.

Expecting others to know something without being told is entitling and rude.

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Record family videos in landscape orientation.

Portrait videos result in black bars that take up half the screen when watched.

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Text your children asking for quick snapshots of whatever they are currently doing.

One parent expressed great joy in receiving these candid updates.

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Ask for permission before physical interaction with children.

To avoid unwanted contact, such as wet kisses.

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Gift photo frames pre-filled with personal photos rather than stock images.

Recipients often lack the time to insert their own pictures into empty frames.

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To help an interview subject open up naturally, avoid strict chronology which causes self-consciousness; instead, provide opportunities for them to speak freely without worrying about the order of events.

Focusing on chronological order makes subjects speak self-consciously and leave things out.

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Obtain consent before taking pictures of loved ones.

It is human decency.

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Create a video slideshow featuring places and people mentioned in interviews to share with the family.

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Make desired behaviors easy or necessary, and make unwanted behaviors harder or unnecessary/easy to ignore.

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Share a quiet morning beverage ritual with a family member to build connection.

It allows time to discuss daily excitement and plans.

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Reflect on why certain social reminders bother you by recognizing that the reaction stems from your own buttons being pushed.

You have put those buttons out there.

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Walk away from family problems that cannot be solved.

Not all problems have solutions, and obsessing over fixes prevents moving on.

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Focus on making the host happy over your dislike of certain music at family events.

Love for close people outweighs hate for specific music.

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Use deep conversation questions, such as those from '36 Questions to fall in love', to foster intimacy during interviews.

Intimacy comes from the depth of conversation rather than just time spent together.

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If you have different relationships with each parent, separate your bond with them from their marital relationship.

It helped one person keep a good relationship with their dad despite a poor one with their mom.

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Consider moving closer to family if you want to increase visit frequency.

One person moved closer based on this view of time.

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Use periods of extended time at home to actively bond with young children, recognizing that bad behaviors may disappear with more attention.

Spending more time together can address a child's need for attention and reduce unruly behavior.

• Bonding does not make the situation easy.
• Returning to normal work schedules after such periods may cause abandonment issues in children.

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Focus on 'family' (people who care for you) over 'relatives' (those who share genetics but do not matter).

Relatives are merely genetic links that don't matter a bit, whereas family involves mutual care.

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Spend time directly with the person rather than relying on your partner to mediate, as playing telephone can cause annoyance.

Having a partner play telephone makes the other person annoyed.

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Remember that the fault and responsibility for toxic behavior lie with the family, not you.

They expect less of themselves and will not make amends.

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Join online support communities for validation and advice when dealing with toxic family.

Comments in these spaces can make you feel less alone in your opinions.

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Uninvite toxic family members from your wedding if they fail to meet basic behavioral expectations.

It brings relief and removes the need to deal with them.

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• Elope to avoid the stress and drama of involving toxic family members in wedding traditions.1

If you have a strained relationship with a family member, try increasing physical distance between you.

Physical separation can reduce conflict and make visits more cordial.

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Spend small, regular amounts of time together, be honest about feelings, and celebrate each other's successes.

It helped strengthen my bond.

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Do not hide your emotions, as inauthenticity causes others to distance themselves because they do not want to dig through layers to connect.

Hiding emotions is inauthentic and makes people lose interest in hanging out.

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Ensure complete separation from toxic family by changing your phone number, email, address, and making social media private.

This helps secure newfound peace.

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Block toxic family members on social media and phone to prevent contact.

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Do not expect adult children living hours away to handle your house maintenance, as this expectation can damage the relationship.

It is a relationship-damaging condition.

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Allow yourself to find an annoying family member irritating internally so you can focus on controlling your actions rather than suppressing your feelings.

This helps you act better externally.

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Reframe annoying interactions as issues of your own reaction rather than their fault, and try to remember this when you become annoyed.

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Focus on chosen friends and supportive family over biological relatives.

Chosen relationships are more important and irreplaceable than blood ties.

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Redefine family as chosen relationships with people who care about you, rather than relying on blood ties.

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• Create your own chosen family if you desire a loving and supportive environment, rather than relying on birth family.1

Focus on spending time with loved ones over taking excessive photos.

Focusing on documentation rather than presence makes the experience essentially useless.

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Maintain independent social connections and interests within a new relationship to prevent resentment and toxicity.

Lack of independence can cause resentment to fester quickly.

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Refuse to be dragged into political conversations by family members who cannot comprehend different opinions.

Their insistence on dragging you in is their problem.

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Seek community support networks like churches or local groups for practical help such as babysitting and job leads.

Human relationships provide essential support like babysitting that enables employment.

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Go low contact with family members who resent your frugality and demand you pay for things for them because you can afford it.

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Relax about awkward bodily functions or habits, accepting them as part of being human.

Uncomfortable situations are inherent to the human experience.

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Get a job or further your studies in a different city or state to physically distance yourself from overprotective parents.

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Limit conversations to superficial topics like TV shows, pets, or weather, and reduce contact frequency.

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