Mindset

None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.

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  1. If you grew up poor and believe you will always be poor, realize you have some control over your life.

    Things started to change once this realization was made.

    one person who lived it

  2. Judge what you truly value by your actions, not just by what you say is important.

    If you do not act toward a goal you claim is important, you are deceiving yourself.

    one person who lived it

  3. Frame your new lifestyle as a source of joy rather than discipline.

    If the change feels like punishment, your body will look for a way out; joy sustains you where discipline only starts you.

    one person who lived it

  4. Depend on discipline instead of motivation, compelling yourself to complete necessary tasks no matter your emotional state.

    Motivation is temporary and unstable, while discipline is certain.

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  5. Take small steps to improve your life today without waiting to have every aspect figured out.

    You do not need to have your entire life together to make positive changes.

    one person who lived it

  1. Remind yourself daily of the things and people you are grateful for.

    Being thankful is an extremely positive and blessing feeling which gives you a lot of power.

    one person who lived it

  2. Connect with self-help or positive content often.

    One person found it really helpful.

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  3. Recognize that you are engaging in 'all or nothing' thinking.

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  4. Do not trust your initial groggy self; realize that person is not really you and proceed with your routine regardless.

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  1. Accept that progress requires constant course corrections, and focus on firing the missile (starting) over aiming perfectly.

    A missile only reaches its target by constantly correcting errors; if it is never fired, it never arrives.

    one person who lived it

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