Autism
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Go out and talk to people, or go to the gym.
It slowly brings confidence up and helps with social situations.
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Smile instead of speaking, or do nothing, if you don't want to interact.
It leaves you much less drained.
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Practice social skills repeatedly.
One person noticed they were not as awkward as they used to be five years ago and suggested that practice, rather than inherent traits like Asperger's, may be all that is needed.
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Imagine subtitles for spoken words and text for your own speech.
It seems to help one person relax.
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Take up structured activities like classes or sports where socializing is secondary to the task, providing a clear framework and time limit for interaction.
Knowing you are only there for a set duration helps you know you are not overstaying your welcome.
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Be yourself and seek out people who are similar to you rather than trying to fit in with those who are not, to avoid hating yourself.
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Reduce time spent on solitary special interests to free up time for developing and sharpening social skills.
This is where the necessary time for social practice comes from.
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Adapt conversation topics to the other person's interests rather than forcing your own, and recognize when a topic has died to pivot gracefully.
Trying to bring up your own interests (like music) when they prefer others (like sports) can shut down the conversation.
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Use general articles, videos, and courses on social skills that are not specifically designed for autistic people.
These resources can still be effective for autistic people.
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