Career advancement
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Ask directly for feedback instead of trying to guess the internal state of people.
Trying to guess internal states is a mistake.
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Reframe conversations by passing the baton back to the other person, focusing on their goals or views on their field.
People open up quickly when you make it about them.
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If you have competitive coworkers, try to collaborate with them instead of viewing them as rivals.
Decision-makers may figure out a way to hire both of you if they like both.
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Join clubs like Toastmasters or Dale Carnegie to practice social skills frequently.
Social awkwardness often stems from a lack of practice and tools; frequent practice helps develop proficiency.
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Avoid talking someone's ear off, as it is exhausting for the listener, especially if they are an introvert.
It is exhausting for the audience.
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Take up casual conversations with coworkers to discover new opportunities, training courses, or techniques.
Talking to someone at work can lead to learning about new opportunities, training courses, pieces of work, or techniques that benefit you.
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Use creativity to find amusing things in conversation without forcing humor.
This requires comfort with previous social skills to be creative.
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Attend Toastmasters meetings to demonstrate seriousness about improving communication skills.
It illustrates to employers that you are serious about improving professionalism and communication skills.
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Keep your contributions aligned with the current discussion; do not introduce unrelated topics just because you wish to discuss them.
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