Class dynamics
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Do not judge people by their appearance or cars, as some may have hidden wealth or debt.
Some people who look unkempt pay cash for new cars, while others have more money in their cars than in their houses.
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Be kind, as it is classy and cannot be bought.
Class cannot be bought.
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Continue saving and investing within your means to gain peace of mind.
Knowing you have money gives you peace.
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Be authentic and own where you came from rather than trying to appear upper class.
Wealthy people can detect pretense, and authenticity is valued.
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Avoid stretching yourself financially for material items that are worthless in a couple of years.
Material things do not last.
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If you plan to date again, seek a partner with a similar upbringing.
Keeping subculture values from your background in high-income spaces can lead to judgment.
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Gravitate toward wealthy people who treat you as a regular person rather than those who emphasize their social position.
Seek out those who appreciate you for who you are.
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Practice good posture by squaring your shoulders.
Good posture is helpful.
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Search for products and services online before purchasing to avoid scams.
Prevents ignorance that leads to being scammed.
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Practice code-switching by adjusting your behavior and speech to fit the social norms of the environment you are in.
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Focus on your own race and values instead of competing in others' races.
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Recognize that some wealthy people define 'poor' differently, such as having never traveled internationally.
One executive described growing up 'poor' because his family only stayed at vacation homes rather than going on vacations.
- Anecdotal example of relative wealth perception
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Focus on quality materials over expensive brands and avoid clothing with large brand logos.
People notice high-quality materials.
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Slow down your physical movements and maintain good posture.
This combination projects grace and efficiency.
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Wait to be asked before announcing your lifestyle or economic status.
Unsolicited announcements are often viewed negatively.
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If dental insecurity bothers you, consider getting corrections like Invisalign or braces.
One person felt better about themselves; another reported being treated nicer after corrective surgery.
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Take the initiative to organize low-cost social activities like hiking, biking, or local sightseeing.
These activities are free and create environments where it is difficult to be elitist.
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Define being rich as having financial security and readiness for emergencies, rather than by what you drive or how you appear to others.
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Use mundane topics like cleaning or decluttering as relatable conversation starters about your weekend activities.
It's pretty relatable.
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Focus on having time for yourself over accumulating money.
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Contact your college counselor about First-Generation/Low-Income (FLI) groups or the Questbridge program to connect with peers.
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