Conflict
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
If you only read a few
Use sarcasm or push back against bullies who target you for being quiet, though be aware this may lead to being labeled as difficult.
It gets them off your back.
- You may become known as 'bitchy and quiet'.
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When someone mocks your tone by repeating your words, casually ask 'Why did you repeat that?' and leave space for them to sputter, forcing them to confront their strange or rude behavior.
It represents the fact that they are doing something strange, rude, or out-of-place.
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Directly ask friends to explain exchanged mocking looks during conversation.
Friends who care will explain the reason, even if it is uncomfortable.
- If they do not care or explain, find friends who do.
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Do not take it personally when people talk about you behind your back.
Their behavior stems from their own personal issues and negative feelings, not from anything about you.
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Decline invitations to arguments to preserve personal peace.
It leads to a more peaceful life.
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When confronted by aggressors in public, appear confused, amused, or unbothered and continue with your day without giving them a reaction.
Denying them a reaction ruins their fun.
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Decide which differences in worldview you can look past to avoid complete isolation.
Failing to decide which differences to overlook may result in being completely alone.
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Position your body to block line cutters, but do not engage aggressively if they become violent.
To avoid getting hurt.
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Use silence and a blank stare to make rude people uncomfortable and squirm.
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