Connection
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
Remember details about people and ask about them later, such as their name or hobbies.
They will feel great.
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Repeat a person's name once or twice early in the interaction.
It makes the interaction feel warmer and is science-backed.
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Seek out strangers to talk to if you want to experience listening without judgment, as this may be impossible with people you already know.
It is refreshing and free of pre-conceived notions.
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Send recordings to friends who couldn't attend so they can witness the energy and crowd reaction.
It allows them to see how close you were and experience the event.
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Focus on your character, mood, and how you make the other person feel, rather than trying to find common interests.
In interactions, you are judged by your character (feelings, mood, effect on others) rather than shared interests.
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Search for underlying emotional similarities (fear, happiness, sadness) with people rather than just shared interests.
These universal feelings create deeper connections on a human level.
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Challenge yourself gradually and do not shy away from vulnerability to build connection.
It builds connection.
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Show genuine happiness and interest when speaking to people, especially strangers.
Everyone is interesting, and showing interest encourages them to show their best side.
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