Interpersonal dynamics
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Allow your personality and self to evolve as your definition of a better life changes.
The goal of a better life might keep changing.
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Accept that your 'social' persona is another part of you, not a compromise of your true self.
- The more you use this persona, the more dominant it may become, possibly bleeding into your 'true' persona.
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Maintain empathy, kindness, and consideration for others while ensuring you do not violate your ground rules.
This allows you to face your conscience and live the life you want, even if you are not popular.
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Spend conscious time alone to notice how your authentic self differs from the version of you that mirrors others.
Rebuilding a sense of identity may involve connecting with yourself first rather than with others.
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Mirror people you admire to reflect the identity you want to build, rather than mimicking others just to fit in.
Mirroring without admiration is less effective and lacks the identity signal of who you want to be.
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Encourage opponents to sink money into green properties which have expensive costs and low returns.
Green properties have expensive costs and low returns.
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Consider not playing Monopoly at all as the only winning move.
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Ask yourself whether adjusting your behavior helps you grow or makes you smaller.
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Recognize that choosing to conform to social norms can be an authentic decision reflecting your self.
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Recognize that social interaction influences, changes, and shapes your self without compromising it.
Inauthenticity compromises one's self, not the act of being influenced.
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Adopt a 'broad frame' mindset that views individual wins and losses as small pieces of overall experience rather than defining narratives.
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Cultivate a mindset that prioritizes your own self-approval over whether others like you.
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