Life transitions
None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.
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Accept that a wrong career decision was made and actively move on to find a new path.
Do not get stuck hoping life resolves itself.
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Do not stick with a career path just because of invested time and effort.
Clinging to a mistake due to time spent is a fallacy; changing directions when needed can lead to happiness.
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Take one small step toward your goal at a time.
Viewing past experiences as lessons rather than failures turns them into assets without regret or guilt.
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Do not fully quit a hobby; instead, devote less time to it and more to software development to do what makes you happy.
At some point, the hobby will fade away and you won't miss it.
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Realize you can determine your own fate and learn anything, which opens doors to new fields.
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Identify yourself by your hobbies and skills rather than your job title.
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Treat your job as a tool to fund specific aims like travel or purchases, rather than defining your entire life.
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Stop comparing your current year to past years, as this holds you back; view past experiences as assets leading to your current moment.
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Find a career counselor in your area to discover career options you hadn't considered.
One person discovered deep sea diving was the right career for them only after consulting a counselor.
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Avoid pursuing a generalized degree, such as in business, with the hope that it will secure employment.
Generalized degrees are difficult to leverage for finding a job.
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Put devices away and reflect on what you enjoyed as a kid to identify core passions, ignoring societal definitions of success.
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Accept starting over financially and professionally when changing careers, recognizing that life is not a race.
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Demonstrate genuine curiosity and desire to learn in lectures to impress lecturers who may recommend you for advanced programs like PhDs.
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