Self improvement

None of this is expert advice. It's what people worked out for themselves, usually the hard way — what actually helped, and what they'd tell someone standing where you are. Take what fits and leave the rest.

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  1. Decide on your purpose and act on it, rather than waiting to find it.

    Purpose is not hidden; it is decided by you.

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  2. Start exercising daily with very small steps, such as doing five pushups upon waking.

    Taking baby steps prevents overwhelming yourself.

    • One person developed tendonitis in their elbows lasting about a week when starting this.

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  3. Discover your core values and ensure your work supports them.

    This leads to fulfillment and unconscious devotion to the work.

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  4. Write regularly to refine raw talent; accept that most output will be poor, but connecting the best parts can result in something valuable.

    Reading one person's post suggested they had raw talent that could be refined.

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  5. If you are unemployed, treat finding a job as your new full-time job.

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  1. Read the book 'Can't Hurt Me' by David Goggins.

    The book is described as really good.

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  2. Seek work environments with variety if sitting in a cubicle feels like solitary confinement to you.

    One person prefers moving between different rooms over staying in one place for eight hours.

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  3. Listen to Earl Nightingale’s video 'the secret' or his summary of Napoleon Hill’s 'Think And Grow Rich'.

    It helped gain direction.

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  4. Try to fix other aspects of your life while working in a stable but unfulfilling job to potentially find career revelations.

    Focusing on other areas of life while slogging away at a job led one person to career revelations.

    • This reflects one person's experience.

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  1. Implement self-improvement changes one step at a time to avoid burnout.

    Trying to do all changes at once leads to burning out and quitting.

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  2. Do not let others' insecurity limit your ambitions; if a boss discourages your growth, consider leaving to pursue education or new opportunities.

    One person quit after being told to 'remember their station,' eventually returning to the same company in a superior position.

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  3. Read 'The Middle Finger Project' to encourage following your passions and creating meaningful work.

    One reader found it encouraged them to follow their passions more than any other book.

    • Aimed at women

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  4. Do things you are interested in even if they have no practical value.

    It provides a brief moment of relief.

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  5. Push through submitting the first few applications to feel more secure in the process.

    Getting over the initial hurdle was key to feeling security.

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  6. Practice applying for jobs repeatedly to build the skill and gain experience.

    Applying is a skill that improves with repetition.

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  7. Keep something in the background (part-time work, degree) to stay connected to the professional world while focusing on family.

    The children won't be children forever.

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  8. Go on a solo adventure to see what inspires you, write it down, and repeat the activity the following week to compare your feelings.

    To determine if that activity is truly your thing.

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  9. Dress nicely and treat the interviewer with the same politeness you would offer anyone meeting for the first time.

    This approach helps ensure things work out fine.

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  10. Fear mediocrity and complacency more than temporary feelings of failure when starting a new venture.

    Feelings of quitting and failure are temporary, whereas staying where you are leads to permanent mediocrity.

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  11. Pursue fulfillment outside of work.

    That satisfaction may leak over into your professional career.

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  12. Put yourself out there professionally whenever you can to develop courage.

    Work offers many chances to develop courage.

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  13. Stop worrying excessively about money.

    Worrying about money makes finding your path foggier.

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  14. If you have prior programming experience, obtain niche certifications in areas like data science or computer forensics rather than common support certifications to differentiate yourself.

    Support type certs are too common.

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  15. Search within yourself rather than living the way society dictates.

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