Habits
Small steps that worked for real people, on habits.
The sky over Habits · 81 small steps
- Anchor the wake-up, not the bedtime
- Ask what the game was drowning out
- Change one thing, until it holds. Then the next.
- Curiosity finds what shame can't
- Cut the one game that only brings relief
- Gaming addiction is real — and so are the exits
- Most of the pain is in the before
- Rationed play, or none at all — know which player you are
- Replace the game, or it moves back in
- Resume, don't reset
- The game was engineered to win — drop the self-blame
- Turn off your watch history — the rabbit hole closes
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In the UK · Samaritans
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In the US · National Domestic Violence Hotline
Call 1-800-799-7233Text START to 88788
In the UK · National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)
For men in the UK · Men’s Advice Line Lines open Monday to Friday, 10am to 5pm
Outside those hours: Samaritans will listen any time, on 116 123.
Need somewhere safe to sleep tonight? What to do, step by step →
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In Scotland, Wales or Northern Ireland · your nation’s own 24-hour line
Scotland: 0800 027 1234Wales: 0808 80 10 800Northern Ireland (18+): 0808 802 1414
In the US · Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline
Call 1-800-422-4453Text GO to 1-800-422-4453
In the UK · Childline
An adult worried about a child? Childhelp takes those calls too. In the UK: NSPCC, 0808 800 5000, 10am to 4pm, Monday to Friday.
Under 18 and told to leave home, or not safe there? What to do, step by step →
More: Childline’s online chat
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In the US · RAINN — National Sexual Assault Hotline
Call 1-800-656-4673Text HOPE to 64673
In England and Wales · Rape Crisis (16+)
18 or under in the UK? Childline, any time: 0800 1111.
More lines: Scotland, Wales, Northern Ireland
In Scotland · Rape Crisis Scotland (13+) Lines open every day, 5pm to midnight
Call 08088 01 03 02Text 07537 410 027
Outside those hours: Samaritans will listen any time, on 116 123.
In Wales or Northern Ireland · 24-hour lines that cover sexual violence
Followed, watched or harassed? What to do, step by step →
In the US · VictimConnect Resource Center
Call 1-855-484-2846Text 1-855-484-2846
In the UK · National Stalking Helpline (Suzy Lamplugh Trust) Lines open Monday and Wednesday, 9:30am to 8pm. Tuesday, Thursday and Friday, 9:30am to 4pm
Outside those hours: Samaritans will listen any time, on 116 123.
Someone sharing, or threatening to share, intimate images of you?
StopNCII.org (18+): help stop them being shared online →
In the UK · Revenge Porn Helpline (18+) Lines open Monday to Friday, 10am to 4pm, excluding bank holidays
Outside those hours: Samaritans will listen any time, on 116 123.
Under 18 in the images? In the UK, Childline can help you get them removed (Report Remove): 0800 1111. In the US, NCMEC can point you to Take It Down, any time: 1-800-843-5678.
Forced or tricked into work or sex?
In the US · National Human Trafficking Hotline
Call 1-888-373-7888Text 233733
In the UK · Modern Slavery & Exploitation Helpline (Unseen) Lines open 8am to 6pm, Monday to Sunday (reduced hours until further notice)
Outside those hours: Samaritans will listen any time, on 116 123.
An older person being hurt, neglected or exploited?
In the UK · Hourglass (older people and abuse)
Call 0808 808 8141Free text 078 6005 2906
If any of this is about you: call 988 in the US or Samaritans on 116 123 in the UK. In danger: 911 / 999. Someone to talk to →
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About a child? Childline 0800 1111 in the UK, Childhelp 1-800-422-4453 in the US.
Sexual assault: RAINN 1-800-656-4673 in the US, Rape Crisis 0808 500 2222 in England and Wales.
In danger now: 911 in the US, 999 in the UK.
A teen or young adult in the US? Love Is Respect, any time: 1-866-331-9474, or text LOVEIS to 22522.
18 or under in the UK? Childline, any time: 0800 1111.
If you’re over 18: domestic abuse lines →
Worried someone checks this device? How to browse more privately →
Someone to talk to, and more →
Thinking of ending your life, or in danger? 988 (US) · Samaritans 116 123 (UK) · 911 / 999
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All 81 tips on habits
- A start too small to refuse
- Anchor the wake-up, not the bedtime
- Ask what the game was drowning out
- Beat the thing you keep putting off with a two-minute start
- Biggest problem first — and slips are just slips
- Borrow the audiobook for the drive
- Budget for the boredom
- Change one thing, until it holds. Then the next.
- Choose how to stop by how your last try went
- Choose what refills the feed
- Close the notes and say it out loud
- Count the caffeine and nicotine before you blame the stress
- Curiosity finds what shame can't
- Cut the one game that only brings relief
- Cut the sugar you stir in first
- Decide the quitting date before you start
- Discipline is not isolation
- Do nothing for ten minutes before you start
- Do the hard thing when you're sharp
- Empty the car at the pump
- Five minutes with a book you already loved
- Gaming addiction is real — and so are the exits
- Give the fog three weeks
- Give the other hand a job
- Give the slow driver a cake to carry
- Keep showing up. Intensity can wait.
- Keep the cups, weaken the coffee
- Let the kids call out the bikes
- Look before you go, even when the light is yours
- Most of the pain is in the before
- Move the caffeine before you drop the can
- Not trying is the only 100%
- One mark for feet, two for inches
- Park a few spaces from the cart return
- Pause and ask what you actually want before you eat
- Photograph the haircut from the back
- Pick an alarm you can afford to hate
- Pick the hobby that needs no thinking
- Push your forehead toward the camera
- Put the fork down between bites
- Put the reason across the room
- Put the sock on the doorknob
- Put your bag on the back seat next to the child
- Put your foot through the strap
- Rationed play, or none at all — know which player you are
- Replace the game, or it moves back in
- Rest days are part of the program
- Resume, don't reset
- Say ‘I get to’ only about what you would miss
- Say ‘not a priority’ only to yourself
- Slow down and leave room when you pass a walker
- Start smaller than feels worth doing
- Start with a walk you can talk through
- Stronger, not smaller
- Suck first, master later
- Take a bag on the walk
- Take the lecture at one and a half
- Take the wallet out before you sit down
- Tell the ones who will ask
- The closet keeps its own score
- The decision happens in the shop
- The game was engineered to win — drop the self-blame
- The greats failed their way to the right path
- The habit is the goal. Fitness is the result.
- The hundred keys
- The plan you can keep on a bad week
- The scroll is the symptom
- The threshold mile
- The trick is the missing lyrics
- The urge starts at a rough edge
- Treat the hand habit and the nicotine separately
- Turn off your watch history — the rabbit hole closes
- Turn the first cross the other way
- Type the address in yourself
- Wear a new scent on the trip
- Week three is where it starts counting
- What the captions actually fix
- Write down every address you have lived at
- Write slower, from the shoulder
- Year first, and the folder sorts itself
- Your first hundred phrases
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